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Living With Intention

As the new school year is rolling around and already starting for some, I wanted to address a simple thought, Living With Intention.

Amidst the hustle and bustle of normal daily mom-life, do you ever feel discouraged? Run down? Have moments of self-doubt? I think we all do and we owe it to ourselves to push those negative thoughts out of our hearts and our minds. Each and every mother has a million tasks on their plate, a million thoughts running through their mind, a million pressures from various sources. We have to be firm but caring, a provider but also a disciplinary, a giver and a taker, and multi-task like none other. Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what the ‘right’ thing to do is. We just have to try our best and hope that our efforts will yield positive results in the long-term. The fruits of our labor are not instant successes, it takes a long time to realize that our actions are paying off. So, to all you moms out there I just want to say:

You Are Awesome!

One of the reasons I chose to start this blog was to empower homeschooling families. I am very familiar with how overwhelming this lifestyle can be when you are just starting out. I can only imagine the struggle is amplified when families choose to switch to this lifestyle after giving up a career and withdrawing their children from a brick and mortar school. The changes disrupt your routine and it is challenging to find your footing. Even for those just starting out, there are terms unfamiliar to the rest of the world, there are pressures in choosing the right curriculum and such an abundance of resources that you feel lost. We second guess ourselves and our internal voice says “You really think you can do this? You don’t have a childhood developmental degree or teacher’s license-what makes you think you can teach your kids? Your kids would be better off learning from a qualified teacher surrounded by lots of classmates. You are depriving them of the childhood experience you had.” etc.

Stop Thinking Negative Thoughts!

They are like the little devil on your shoulder working hard to make you fail. Let the angel on the other shoulder prevail and trust your instincts, trust the decision your family made together. YOU CAN DO THIS! If you can raise your kids to teach them morals and responsibility and how to function as a productive adult, then OF COURSE you can teach them academics. OF COURSE you can facilitate an education for them!

A homeschool or home education program is simply you providing a path specific to your child. And guess what? No one knows your child better than you do! You know their strengths and weaknesses, you know their dreams and fears, you know their interests and dislikes. So go into it remembering that you have the keys to unlock their minds and show them the beauty and value in this world.

One of the most wonderful things about home education is that you can work at your own pace. You can spend less or more time each day on a topic. It is up to you and your child. You don’t NEED to have an expensive curriculum. You don’t NEED to meet anyone else’s standards. As long as you are instilling a love of learning in your child and seeing their progress, then you are doing a great job! No one is perfect and some days are tougher than others.  Kids may grumble or push back, not wanting to give you their full attention or apply themselves as best as they can. But again, that would happen in school as well. It is normal. It is a child finding their voice, their independence and developing their personality. Every child at some point challenges what’s expected of them and tests the waters. Just roll with it and don’t put too much pressure on yourself as the facilitator.

We are all in this together, teaching and leading our families on this path of life. Homeschool families (and moms in general) are all here for one another. It’s ok to take a day off to rethink your strategies and regroup. It’s ok to reach out to other homeschooling parents to ask how they deal with a certain issue or solve a specific problem. Lend your ear and lean on each other for support in the times of doubt.

With all this being said, we have come full circle to my point:

Live with intention.

Be Present

+ Be in the moment that is before you.

+ Focus your mind and your heart at the task at hand.

+ Separate the distractions and worries on your mind.

+ Set personal goals.

Be True To Yourself

+ Be who you truly are.

+ Be honest with yourself.

+ Make time for your passions.

+ Work toward your personal goals.

Be Bold

+ Take action.

+ Lead by example.

+ Create your own path by meeting your own goals.

As a parent, set personal goals and create steps to reach those goals. Live in the moment and enjoy your time with your children. Try to appreciate that you would be missing so much if they were not home educated. You would miss their eyes light up when they connect the dots, miss the smile on their face when they have overcome a hurdle, miss their look of pride as they accomplish something monumental. Be thankful that you are the one they look to for affirmation. Be thankful that you are the one to pick them up when they fall. Be thankful that you are the one to push them when they need a little extra motivation.

Your children will model themselves in your light. They will follow your footsteps, so lead by example. When they see you making time for them, they will make time for others. It won’t always be easy, but I promise it will be rewarding. Show them how to create their own path in life and how to make their dreams a reality. Give them the tools to craft their own future. You have the most important job in the world-raising your children and the next generation of makers and doers. One day, the rest of society will rely on them to carry our community and the world on their shoulders.

And you, mom, are doing a phenomenal job!

Grab the poster above on my Freebies tab and pin it up as a reminder to yourself.

What are some goals you’ve set and met as of late? Anything you’re working toward? I love getting to know my readers, tell me about yourself in the comments below!

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